Tips on internet dating sites
’” — Kristen, 27 The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.
Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.
You can have matching profiles, get on like a house on fire over email, and then have zero chemistry in real life. “Online dating should be an enjoyable and fun experience.
Don't take it too seriously and prepare yourself to meet plenty of nice, friendly people who you absolutely don't fancy. Many people go on around 30 dates before they meet someone they really fall for online.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.
After all this is about dating, not emailing.” Along the way, you’ll almost certainly meet some duds.A lot of the outdated dating rules don’t apply, and sending the first message online is actively encouraged if you want to get your profile looked at. “Set aside an amount of time every day and write a handful of tailored introductory messages to new people,” he says.“It’s always obvious when someone is cutting and pasting the same general ‘hi’ message.Meeting to see if there is any chemistry should not be too big a deal.You're not monogamous just because you've been emailing each other for a couple of weeks.” Which is why, Peter adds, it’s worth meeting up as quickly as possible.